My Hubby Spent $720,000 Of My Money On A House For His Parents, He Said: Don’t Like It Then Get Out!

The Foundation of Discontent

Hello, my name is Nancy and at the age of 29 I am ambitiously pursuing my career goals. Currently I live with my husband Benjamin.

Recently I’ve been thinking seriously about the possibility of starting a family. However, Benjamin feels that we should prioritize building and settling into a new home before we consider having children.

Consequently, we are both working hard to save up for our future residents. Even though I would love to be our family sooner rather than later, Benjamin’s firm stance on this matter becomes clear every time we discuss the possibility of children.

He consistently emphasizes the importance of establishing our home first, which I find disheartening as it often feels like he dismisses my feelings. It seems I have no choice but to push myself even harder to contribute more to our savings.

We have been married for a year and I have begun to recognize a recurring theme in our relationship. Benjamin seldom takes my viewpoints into account, a habit that has continued from our dating days.

While I once admired his decisiveness, I now realize that mutual respect for opinions is crucial in a marriage. I am increasingly concerned about the stability of our relationship, especially given the influence of his parents who live nearby.

The Illusion of Frugality

Benjamin often visits his parents under the pretext of saving money. However, I’ve noticed that he frequently spends time with his colleagues enjoying drinks and not factoring these outings into a strict budget.

It baffles me how he holds me to rigorous saving standards while allowing himself certain liberties. His frugality even reaches into minor details such as conserving hot water and turning off lights prematurely, rules that he seems to apply only to me.

Our relationship feels increasingly lopsided. Although I am deeply frustrated, he seems to think it’s reasonable to enforce his way of thinking on others.

Whenever we visit his parents, tensions rise. “It’s been a year since you two got married, we’d love some good news soon!” My in-laws often exclaim, eager to meet their grandchild.

At these moments, I catch Benjamin giving a disapproving look, silently signaling them to avoid unnecessary comments. As these pressures mount, I find myself at a crossroads, questioning how we can find a balance that respects both our dreams and the practical aspects of our lives together.

Pressure and Ultimatums

While Benjamin and I both yearn for a child, he insists that we should build our own home before expanding our family. It’s quite unfair how my in-laws pressure me about having a baby rather than speaking to Benjamin, who seems indifferent to my feelings about the timing.

Despite my urge to speak out, I often find myself muted by their relentless expectations for a grandchild. After dinner, Benjamin walks out for a smoke and remarks.

“Nancy, you’re working hard, but if you really want to be a housewife you should consider quitting your job and focusing on home life.” “Maybe that’s why you’re not getting the attention you need from Benjamin.” He remarks.

It’s as if he’s implying that my career is the reason we can’t start a family, which is unfair and untrue. Benjamin himself isn’t ready to have children anytime soon.

Frustrated, I respond sharply to my in-law. “Benjamin was the one who encouraged me to keep working, why don’t you talk to him before you lecture me again?” My patience wears thin as I continue.

“I want children too but Benjamin is the one who’s not ready, please direct your concerns to him instead of constantly criticizing me.” I said.

Reaching the Breaking Point

My words seemed to shock my in-laws. I excuse myself from the table and head towards the door, my frustration boiling.

Benjamin, casually smoking by the entrance, doesn’t say a word as I get into the car. A friend who had joined us for dinner follows and casually remarks.

“Are you leaving already?” She said. She’s unaware of the tension.

Exhausted by the recurring pressures from my in-laws and Benjamin’s indifference, I finally declare that I won’t be visiting the in-laws’ home anymore. Benjamin looks at me surprised and argues.

“Why not? We can save on food costs right?” “Besides you want a home in kids soon don’t you?” He argues.

Fed up, I snap back. “If it’s really about saving, then maybe you should cut back on your drinking and smoking rather than driving to your parents just to save the cost of a meal.” “Why can’t you make savings in those ways too? Everyone needs a break.” I voiced my frustration.

Benjamin had always imposed restrictions on me like avoiding the use of hot water and mandating lights off by 9:00 p.m. under the guise of saving money. He seemed to think that making these changes wouldn’t require any real sacrifices.

“If I’m the only one making these adjustments then I don’t even want this house, I’m so tired of it.” “You never give up anything yourself, but you’re perfectly fine demanding sacrifices from others!” I protested.

Benjamin tried to brush off my concerns suggesting they weren’t significant, but I firmly countered. “No, it is a big deal, do you realize how much patience I’ve had to muster all this time?” I countered.