My Husband Wanted A Divorce. “Get Out Now!” His Mistress Snapped. “And Take Your Garbage With You!”
The Audacious Departure
“Please leave our home immediately and clear out all your belongings which are cluttering the space.”
As Susan waved me off, clearly frustrated, Steven interjected, insisting that I shouldn’t leave any mess behind. Feeling utterly disheartened, I quietly agreed, then turned away from them both.
It puzzled me why, after being caught in wrongdoing, they were so unapologetically bold, demanding I leave so they could cohabit. Their audacity seemed boundless. Yet I wondered if they considered the compromising evidence I held against them—none.
A Marriage in Decline
So, I decided to let them revel in their illusion of victory for the time being as I plotted my next steps with a sly grin, retreating to my sanctuary. My name is Abigail Ruth, and I have been sharing my life with my husband, Steven, for around two decades.
At 45, I’m a home-based designer, while Steven, four years my elder, excels as a systems engineer. Our son, Gary, born shortly after we wed, is now 21 and diligently pursuing college studies.
Despite what sounds like a picturesque family life, the reality is far from it. Steven’s recent actions—sneaking out and returning home late—have ignited suspicions of infidelity within me, leading me to contemplate divorce as the inevitable resolution to our marital discord.
Financial Strain and Shifting Tempers
Reflecting on the past, I recall a shift in Steven’s demeanor years ago during a financially tight phase, exacerbated as our son entered middle school and expenses surged. Despite the downturn in Steven’s income, attributed to a struggling economy and company woes, my attempts to address our financial strain only provoked anger in him.
His unexpected outburst over my concern for our finances and his generalized dissatisfaction with his colleagues marked a significant deviation from our usual disagreements, leaving me to navigate our challenges in isolation. This narrative unfolds the unraveling of a marriage strained by suspicion, betrayal, and financial woe, highlighting the complexities of familial relationships and the personal resolve to face adversity.
A New Pursuit and a Son’s Ambition
Before tying the knot, a former colleague from my previous job, who had recently embarked on her entrepreneurial journey, reached out for assistance. It had been years since I’d left that position to get married, and despite the long hiatus, I couldn’t pass up the chance.
Enthusiastically, I took up her offer, marking my foray into home-based design work. I shared the news with Steven, but his reaction was lukewarm at best.
“Okay,”
He acknowledged it with a simple word, showing little interest in the details. Regardless, I had made it official to him and dove into my work with dedication.
Disruptions and Dreams
One day, to my surprise, Gary came home early, disrupting my workday. It was unusual given his schedule packed with school and extracurricular activities.
“I’m home early because of midterms,”
He explained, which I had completely forgotten despite it being marked on our calendar. As I rushed to prepare lunch, Gary noticed my work setup in the living room.
Apologizing for the mess, I promised to tidy up soon, but he brushed it off, more interested in sharing something else. Gary had been developing a game, aspiring to follow in his father’s footsteps as an engineer.
His project, though not as refined as mainstream games, was an impressive effort. He expressed his desire to attend a vocational school to pursue this passion further, hopeful for his father’s support.
Fathers and Sons
However, when Steven saw the game, his response was far from supportive. He dismissed Gary’s hard work as trivial, even mocking the effort.
I couldn’t hide my anger at his demeaning attitude. While Steven might view the game as simplistic, his approach was harsh and entirely inappropriate.
As I defended Gary’s independence and efforts, Steven’s annoyance grew, challenging my stance on parenting and education. This incident highlighted a fundamental disagreement in our approach to supporting our son’s ambitions and respecting his individual pursuits.
Silent Resolve and the Secret Purchase
Steven’s frustration echoed loudly, accusing me of negligence, which led me to silence. Arguing seemed futile.
My priority shifted towards supporting Gary independently. I absorbed Steven’s grievances quietly, waiting for his temper to cool down.
The following day, with Steven away, I offered Gary a solution.
“I’ll get you a computer for your game development. If your dad questions it, I’ll say it’s for my work.”
This decision to buy Gary a high-quality computer, funded from my own resources, drew a skeptical look from Steven, but I stood firm, stating it was a necessity for my job.
The Betrayal Revealed
This event further strained the already tense relationship between Steven and me, pushing me to consider divorce—a thought complicated by Gary’s well-being. As I navigated these turbulent thoughts, Gary embarked on his college journey, determined to pursue his passion despite anticipating his father’s approval.
Gary’s maturity and cleverness gave me hope that we could manage through potential changes, including divorce. One day, Gary returned from college visibly distressed, which immediately alarmed me.
After some hesitation, he revealed a shocking observation. He had seen Steven with another woman.
Witnessing the Truth
Gary’s recount of the day highlighted an unexpected turn of events. Intending to attend a lecture that got cancelled, he opted to spend time downtown with friends, where he inadvertently witnessed Steven’s betrayal.
Gary’s attempt to act unaffected in front of his friends couldn’t mask his deep discomfort, prompting him to come home early. This revelation, shared in a moment of vulnerability, underscored the complexities of our family dynamics and the challenges we faced ahead.
Had I been in Gary’s shoes, I might have confronted Steven immediately, but I understood the dilemma he faced. My suspicions about Steven’s fidelity had been growing given his recent odd behavior—leaving home early, returning late, and secretive phone calls.
The Private Investigator
It was hard not to suspect something was amiss, prompting me to hire a private investigator to look into Steven’s activities. The investigation confirmed my suspicions.
When I shared this with Gary, his surprise was evident, but he supported my calm approach and the possibility of divorce. I had planned to address the issue with Steven directly, but he did not come home that night, possibly aware that Gary had seen him.
When Steven returned on Sunday, he was not alone, but with a younger woman, Susan, who brazenly introduced herself as his girlfriend. Steven’s declaration of leaving me for Susan, accompanied by his insult about my age, left me in disbelief at his nerve.
Confronting the Mistress
Yet, I retorted with sarcasm, unfazed by Susan’s attempts to belittle me. I confidently assured her of my independence thanks to my job.
Susan, eager to expedite the divorce, produced the papers, which I signed without hesitation. Despite her and Steven’s arrogant demands for me to leave our home promptly, their lack of remorse and entitlement was astonishing.
Instead of offering apologies, they were combative, insisting on their right to be together. Their behavior was beyond disrespectful, but I remained composed, secretly holding evidence of Steven’s infidelity that could significantly influence our divorce proceedings.
