My Sister Crashed My 15-Year-Old’s Brand-New Car and Then Called the Police on Her!
She let out a breath that sounded like it had been locked in her chest for an hour. A single tear escaped and slid down her cheek. She wiped it away fast, almost angry at herself for letting it show.
“I’m not—I’m not a bad driver,” she said, like that was the worst accusation in the world.
“You’re a careful driver,” I said. “That’s why I bought you the car.”
That set off another ripple of emotion in her face, like she was trying desperately not to fall apart.
“Do you think Grandma and Grandpa really said that?” she asked. “That they saw me?”
My heart twisted. I didn’t know, not for sure. And the idea of calling them to ask made me feel like I’d be handing them my throat.
“I don’t know what they said,” I admitted. “But whoever talked to the police didn’t tell the truth. And we’ll find out who.”
She nodded but her eyes stayed damp.
“I want you to try and sleep,” I said. “Tomorrow we’re going to talk to someone whose job it is to fix things like this.”
“Like a lawyer?” she asked.
“Exactly like a lawyer,” I said. “I’ll make calls first thing, and whatever story they think they can pin on you,” I brushed her hair back behind her ear, “They’re not ready for what’s coming.”
She swallowed and nodded, finally curling back under her blankets. I turned off the light. I thought the knock at midnight was the worst of it. It wasn’t. Not even close.
When your sister is 10 years younger than you, people always assume you’ll feel protective of her. They don’t picture 16-year-old you babysitting a cranky six-year-old while your parents go out because you’re such a big help. They don’t picture 20-year-old you home from college for the weekend walking a hungover 10-year-old to the bathroom because your parents think it’s funny when she tries a little wine at family dinner.
They certainly don’t picture 38-year-old you standing in your kitchen at 1:00 in the morning realizing that same golden child just tried to feed your kid to the wolves.
Growing up Jenna was the baby. That was her entire job description. “She’s still learning,” Mom would say when she broke things that weren’t hers. “She’s just expressive,” Dad would say when she screamed at waiters.
I was the responsible one. That was my job. “You know Jenna is sensitive,” Mom would tell me. “You’re older. You should understand.”
Funny thing about that phrase. You hear it enough and eventually you do understand, just not in the way they meant.
When Jenna got caught shoplifting lip gloss at 16, my parents drove to the store, begged the manager not to press charges, and then spent the entire ride home lecturing me about how important it was that I not make Jenna feel bad about this.
When Jenna backed dad’s old sedan into a mailbox at 19, they joked about it for years. “Remember when our girl tried to take out federal property?” they’d say at Thanksgiving. Everyone would laugh.
When I got into a minor fender bender in college because a guy cut me off in the rain, my mother didn’t speak to me for 3 days. “I just expected better from you, Aaron,” she finally said. “You’re usually so careful.” Translation: Your mistakes are character flaws. Hers are anecdotes.
By the time I was in my 30s, divorced, working full-time, raising Lily, the script hadn’t changed. I was the one they called when they couldn’t figure out their online banking, when their internet went out, when they needed rides to doctor’s appointments.
Jenna was the one they called our “free spirit” as she moved in and out and back into their house, changed jobs every 6 months, and somehow always had money for new shoes. “Jenna just hasn’t found herself yet,” Dad would say, pouring more gravy. “You were always so focused.” Focused is such a polite word for on your own.
I learned to stop expecting fairness a long time ago. I learned to stop trying to convince them that maybe just once they could hold Jenna to the
